Love and Attachment

Most of us suffer in life because of confusion between love and attachment. Love is a positive quality of giving someone positive emotions without any expectation. But attachment is getting tied to a person or the object with the expectation that the person or object will make us happy. I am observing this "type of love",that is pure attachment as modern way of loving...that fails often. But Love never fails while attachment causes bondage as well as disappointment and ultimately make us sad.
We all have strong attachments to money,name,fame,relatives,friends and others. Discrimination is lost when it comes to dealing with your attachment,so you suffer,secondly the more you are attached,the more you expect something out of that relationship. When these expectations are not met,it causes misery.
Attachment is always counterproductive. Parents try to control their children in accordance of their own wish and do not let them fulfil their goals only out of attachment,not love. If we love someone,we must do what is in his best interest.
In chapter 13 of the BhagvadGeeta,it is mentioned that we should avoid too much attachment with close relations and possessions.
Then how should we deal with our relations in family and others? Scriptures says one should have working relationship in life. We should avoid extremes that lead one to say," I can't live without you" or," Go,Get lost!". Our approach should be," I care for you". We should behave like a mananging trustee for our family,without feelings of ownership. Family members also need space in life. Attachment leads clinging,which they do not appreciate,instead of a controlling attitude,our attempt should be to be ready for their wellfare alltime giving them enough space in life.
Love expands our view to the universe while the attachment limits....
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